Diva Rules 2010

Diva Rules 2010

Thursday, November 10, 2011



Another step to moving toward becoming a better human & DIVA, and conquering life's stressors is to learn how to APPRECIATE them & TRULY appreciate them!
"Why do we approach things that do not happen in the way we intend them to be as "wrong?"
(I'm guilty of it, at times)...a wise proverb says,"If you want to make GOD laugh, plan!"

In life, there are times that we selfishly go about our daily routine, in the constant "GO, GO, GO" mode and hardly ever STOP! to think and be conscious of the LIFE we have!

Sooo.... in getting back to the question @ hand....-
"Why do we approach things that do not happen in the way we intend them to be as "wrong?"
Control & not appreciating: "What Is"
GOD is the driver here DIVA's, and we are just along for the ride! We need to learn when to take a backseat, & recognize when we are trying to take over the steering wheel!

So for your Task:

1)- Learn to STOP! THINK! RELAX! When life's stressors (or speed-bumps) kick into full gear!
2)-When these stressors happen, ask yourself
     a)- What does this mean? (Are we hurting emotionally? is there something we are trying to prove?)
     b)- Am I getting to be ahead of myself?
3)-Pay attention to your body-we can get ill/sick, be physically distressed (DIVAs' we mostly gain weight)
You WILL be HAPPIER that you did!

Enjoy DIVA's

   This is a moment we should cherish...

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Hello Gorgeous!!!

Yesss! I'm talking to you!

Haha, How many times have you (DIVA's) received compliments for being beautiful & great, whether in physical appearance, or through the ability to "Work It" in our careers, school, etc. and don't accept them???

Soo many of my young D.I.T.'s {Diva In Training) I work with (& my adult DIVAs' I know & have talked with several times over & known for years...) have struggled with accepting our essence of how AWESOME we truly are, yet others struggle with being stuck in the negative...we need to get over this hump
........Please understand this : we may say.... "thank you" to those compliments but deep down in our core & soul, we do not accept it! Why do we do this to ourselves?! I mean, really??

I want to focus on things we should know for sure & that means for us being able to accept what is...as I explained above. If you got it going on, you MUST accept it...by knowing this for sure will bring us closer to loving & treasuring ourselves...

Here's some points from Oprah's class (life-class) on helping ourselves to recognize REAL
We should know for sure:

**What you put out to people....will DEFINITELY come back (watch out on how you carry yourself & how you treat others' DIVAs')

***YOU Define YOUR own life..(live...& keep loving and in turn you become what you believe...)

****Please be conscious of your circle of folks'...taken from 1 of my favorite author's Ms. Angelou" "When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE them the 1st time"

***** Worrying is a waste of time...use this energy for doing something positive (like living out your dreams...-you will appreciate yourself sooo much more in the long run :)-

****** What was done in the PAST has NOOO POWER in the PRESENT!!! ...So live your LIFE!

I hope this helps you DIVA's to give you a little boost to recognize how GORGEOUS YOU TRULY ARE! But that starts with recognizing REAL..with ourselves 1st!!! 

Have a wonderful week
~~Ode' to Breast Cancer Awareness Month~~Be GORGEOUS!!!!

~ Nish 

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Welcome Back, Welcome Back....

Good Day to All  DIVA Rules fam!!
Glorious Sunday!!!
It's been toooo long since we have blessed you with some "Defining Inner Victorious..." posts!

As life changes seasons, it is important that we do not get caught up in all the "Hype" and forget where we came from nor what God has prepared and already laid out for us...

Today's post comes from my inner soul entirely...I have already started & made a firm decision to focus on myself more! When I say "focus on me," I do not mean selfishly just "Doin' Me" as some might think (& act). I mean I am focusing on developing my inner soul and well-being. I decided to stand up & choose JOY!

As life changes seasons, and the current life and relationships as we knew it start to transform, it is easy for us to lose faith, and let life itself & other's actions affect us negatively, NEVER let that enter space, your "JOY space" (that's what I'm calling it).

I am starting to lean more on the Lord's word and have the SPIRIT work through me, rather than my emotions & mind work through it alone...for as you know WE have the Lord to bless and "he is the 1 who strengthens...." Look below; especially at Rule #3. (Taken from My Vision Board...Judge Hatchett knows "what's good")

CHALLENGE Yourselves: DON'T let your "JOY space" be invaded!
"...whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must FINISH its work so that you may be MATURE and complete, not LACKING anything" (James 1:2)

MORE Inspiration: check out www.girlfriendsingod.com It is a WONDERFUL site and I receive daily inspirational messages about the word of GOD and continue to learn, daily, how to look at things made in his eyes, rather than mine.

~ Nish

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Work it Out Wednesday: Week Three Couch to 5k

Hello, Good morning!
I was watching my usual morning program today “Enjoying Everyday Life” (if you don’t know about it, tune in.  Dr. Joyce Meyer keeps it real) and it was all about the power of faith.  It was right on time.  While my faith in God has never been stronger, every once in a while situations test it.  I found myself starting to stress/worry about my future plans, however I was reminded today that He has this and to continue lifting it up to Him.  She ended the show with the passage below and boy is it the truth!  It was the exclamation point on a victorious morning.

Mathew 6:25-27 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes?  Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.  Are you not much more valuable than they?  Can anyone of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?”

Take a minute to ponder on that!
I mentioned earlier that this morning was victorious.  It was because I ran for 3 minutes straight!!!  Yes it may be a small task to many of you, but I am celebrating all gains.  On day one, I could barely run 90 seconds straight.  Today I ran 3 minutes.  I can testify that the program is definitely working.  Word to the wise though, make sure to stretch after.  I was a little sore Monday.  See below for my schedule for the week.

Monday, Wednesday , Friday

5 min warm up
a. 90 sec jog
b. 90 sec walk
c. 3 min jog
d. 3 min walk
Repeat steps  a-d
I stayed on the treadmill for 30 minutes (walking the rest of the time at the same pace of my program walk).  As you get to running this morning, repeat this mantra “I will not worry, I am at peace”. 

Have a victorious day DIVAs!!!
<3 Jade

Promised I would take a pic of my new Black Girls Run Hoodie


Monday, April 4, 2011

Money Matters: Essence Fiscally Fit Week 3

Good morning DIVAs!

Welcome to some good weather for a change.  After the past couple weeks, a little bit of rain is ok with me.  Last night I tuned in to my Sunday night lineup, which includes Celebrity Apprentice.  It was a great episode.  The task was all about fundraising and the cast actually raised the most money in the shows history.  I’m mentioning this because one of the teams, the men’s team, fundraised for the St. Jude’s Children’s’ Research Hospital and was visited by a special guest at their fundraising event.  The special guest was a six year old boy who has been battling cancer all of his life.  Seeing this little boy with the various apparatus he is forced to wear, put it in perspective for the entire team and probably for all of the viewers.  It’s important that you find purpose in what you do and that you use some of your earnings to support initiatives that are doing great things for people.  Ok that’s my two cents for the day, here is the Essence Fiscally Fit Exercise of the week.
Week 3:
Record Bills in One Place: It’s one thing to know how much you have, but it’s another thing to be cognizant of how much and when you spend.  Avoid overdraft fees or bounced checks by tracking and recording all of your bills.  Create a schedule so that you know when each bill will come out and so that you can plan the use of your money in order to stay within your monthly budget.  In order to help with this task, create a budget with your monthly income that accounts for all of your bills and expenses.  Then create schedule of payments you can map out when money will be coming out.  Additionally, be sure to keep all receipts and insert transactions into your recorder and budget tool.  Not only will you be able to see where all of your money is going, but it will help you to eliminate any miscellaneous and unnecessary purchases.  This is also a great time to enroll in online banking as many online systems have pre-made tools that you can use for budgeting including up to the minute statement/account history. 

<3 Jade

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Sunday Spark!~ "Today's A New Day"

Happy Glorious Sunday Family!
I truly love and am Thankful for this day!
For the past two weeks, I feel like I have been in a whirlwind, when it comes to work-Yes; sorority business-Yes; fighting illness-Yes; keeping with my personal "handles"-Yes!! Finally I feel like I have my EXHALE moment and I thought to myself...."Today's A New Day!" Regardless of what I have to do or choose to tackle on; I know that it is great to revert back to My SIMPLE Pleasure and thy self with a Glorious New Day from The Most High Above!

Getting to that point of EXHALE is easy for some and may be difficult for others, but the truth in getting to that is listening to your body, mind, and spirit. Relish in that we have the opportunities to conquer whatever it is we are enduring daily, with the SIMPLE thought of "New Day" to start over or begin!

Here is a video from Mary Mary-"I'm Walking"....I dreamt about this song last night--which gives a GREAT message about keeping it movin'--so I guess the spirit is driving me to share some "Spark" with you! Hope you Bounce a little bit, lol~
Enjoy this Day!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Work it Out Wednesday: Black Girls Run the Couch to 5K

Happy Wednesday!
Let’s work it out!!!!  Today was day two of my Couch to 5K plan.  It was much easier waking up at 6, however when I heard that rain I was tempted to stay in but my partner was on top of it.  After only the second day, I feel less fatigued, but my calves feel very tight though.  I know I have been buzzing about this Couch to 5k plan and some of you are probably wondering what the heck it is. 
Couch to 5k is a running plan that literally takes you off the couch to running a 5k (3.1 miles).  As I mentioned before I have always wanted to be able to run for distance.  I admired those people I would see each morning completing their jog, they seem so powerful and focused.  However, every time I would start something, I would get discouraged and stop and never get to that goal I set out to reach.  So this year, I made one of my goals to get in the best shape of my life and what better way to do it than to also tackle this running challenge.  I found a site about a month ago called Black Girls Run and began to peruse the site looking for beginner information and that is when I found out about Couch to 5k.
The ladies on Black Girls Run promoted the plan as the start line for beginner runners.  So this past weekend I went to the Couch to 5k site and signed up.  The program, which is one of Active Trainer, acts as a virtual trainer.  It maps out your routine for the entire 9 weeks.  Additionally it allows you to track your progress, running shoe wear, map running routes, explore local races, connect with other runners, and offers suggestions and guidance as you begin your running experience.  All of this for only $19.  This is just the price I need after paying almost $300 a month for martial arts all last year.   
Now DIVAs, there aren’t many of us women of color who ‘do the running thing’ but it is important that we start taking our health seriously.  I know its easy to say you will do it tomorrow, but tomorrow is promised to know one.  While it doesn’t have to be running, try something out of the box.  If you don’t know how to swim, sign up for swimming lessons, an excellent form of cardio.  If boxing or dancing has always been a goal, sign up and do it.  For those of you interested in starting a running routine or swimming, check out Black Girls Run.  These ladies are working hard to promote health and fitness amongst black and minority women.
Happy Moving!!!!
<3 Jade